Everything changes – the weather, the seasons, you, me, what’s fashionable, what’s not, friendships, relationships, family, jobs. Change, as we all know, are the facts of life (Insert Tootie & Blair – god what a great show). But what we choose to do with change is really all that matters – because that is what becomes our reality.
Resisting what is inevitable only makes it worse and will delay everything that is meant to be and all that you will experience anyways. It’s funny because I think you go through change just like you do any other process, grieving for example; you’re angry, then sad, then confused, then happy, then ready, then maybe somewhere deep down, some far day down the road – you finally accept. But then it could start all over again and you’re back at square one. Sometimes in the same week or even the same day. You’re kind of all over the place and sometimes a mess. Change is so fun, right?
There’s no rhyme or reason as to why we change and why the things around us transform and become different – but they must, and we adapt. This really big guy I used to know with huge hands and large white teeth used to say that if you don’t grow, and you don’t change, then you will die. Yep, it’s as simple as that. It’s black and white.
A friend of mine once gave me a magnet that said “If you’re going through hell – keep going”. I like that. Now I’m not saying that change is always hell, but I like the concept because the same applies to change. You can’t stop it.
You fight to hold on to it and then you fight to let go of it.
But in the end – you have to just go with it. You have to keep going. Just roll and flow with the change babay.
We can all look back at something that scared us, something we didn’t want to do, a jump or a leap of faith we were terrified of making – and see what happened. Well A – if you’re reading this you’re still alive, so that’s good. And B – you’re still alive! Yep. We survive change, but we forget that in the middle of it. It’s tough to see a friendship change but it’s probably harder to resist letting it. It’s hard to say goodbye to a job or person that you love, but being so grateful that it was in your life in the first place is what you should be trying to hold on to.
A new house, a new city, new friends, a loss, a farewell, a new marriage, a new baby, a new job, a new haircut (no really, this can be a huge deal for people) – the list goes on. It may not be easy, and no one else may understand why this is harder on me and that is harder on you – but we deal, we overcome, and we blossom. It’s not easy and sometimes it really sucks, but we get over it because change creates us.
I guess in the end the most important thing about change is what we do with it.
I want to be glad it happened and not sad that it’s over.
But actually experiencing it that way can be the hardest part…