It’s true. In this instance I’m referring to girlfriends as your +1, though boyfriends/husbands/dogs are pretty fantastic +1’s too, don’t get me wrong.
I did yoga this morning with a friend and as I was driving to work feeling sore, with wet hair, I got to thinking – how funny that we enjoy doing yoga together. We don’t speak, we don’t laugh, we don’t tell stories, bitch or complain like we usually do – we just show up, place our mats side by side and flow for an hour. Why is it that we want to do yoga with a friend then? Or see a movie with a friend? Or do any activities that don’t require any talking (something us girls are very good at)? Because being with a girlfriend just makes everything better. Having that +1 makes everything more enjoyable, right?
Think about it. A walk, running errands, a meal, break-ups, make-ups, everything is better with a +1. Did you know that your health and well being is in direct proportion to the quality of your friendships? It’s true. In this case, it’s of course quality over quantity, but there’s research to back it up.
Having a best friend in your life can lower your blood pressure and chronic stress levels by 50%
Married people say friendship is 5 times as important as physical intimacy within their marriage. (WOW! That is actually scary)
People who say they dont have friends at work only have a 1 in 12 chance of feeling engaged with their job. Conversely, if you have a “work best friend” you are 7 times more likely to feel engaged in your job. (Thank god for mine)
The saddest thing of all is when people don’t have those +1’s. The people they call when something great happened, or when something horrific has taken place. The girls that can see through your fake smile, or tell you when you really need a new dye job. The friends that you can be your horrible, ugly self around, and who will still love you to the moon and back. 23% of people say they really don’t feel like they have close friends. That number is horrible! How is this even possible? Boo hoo for those peeps.
Think about what being with your friends feels like, what it looks like, and what it sounds like. To me it’s uncontrollable laughter, hearts filled with light and love, and one of those scenes in a movie you just want to jump into and imagine yourself in. A close friend is really like holding up a mirror to yourself. They are a reflection of you, both good and bad.
Research estimates that by the time you’re 50 you’re going to lose touch with at least 5 of your best friends. FIVE! That is so sad, but I guess I can see how that can happen. Moves, marriages, milestones – life happens and changes us and can do a whirlwind on our lives before we know it. It’s up to us to keep our friendships thriving, bright and strong. For if we don’t have our friends, what do we have?
Friendships are vital for our wellbeing. Did you know that an average woman smiles 62 times a day? And guess what the man’s # is. 8. On average, a man only smiles 8 times a day. What?? Thank god for my girlfriends, because I want to smile WAY more than 8 times a day 🙂
Sometimes it’s easier to back out of plans with a friend, or make up excuses why you can’t meet up, but don’t do it too much – because before you know it, you may not have that many friends anymore. Hell – I don’t want to be 50 and have lost all my besties! That sounds like some miserable sh*t to me. So let’s be friends! And let’s vow to always be friends.
Go on. Pick up the phone, and text a friend, and make some plans. Right now. Or at least vow to yourself the next few things you’re invited to do you’ll actually do them. No excuses.
Everything’s better with a +1. Everything.